I have a client. She's 25, three kids, no job, no child support, on public assistance, living with mom. She's trying to get her own apartment through subsidized housing. She wants to get a job but I can't imagine what she'll end up with because she doesn't have any solid employment history. At least landing a job that will be able to support herself and her three children. She's trying to finish her degree but approx $25k of her $27k in student loans is in collections and she will need to establish a payment arrangement and be on time for at least 9 months before she can get them deferred and finish school. This on top of trying to hold down a job to cover basic necessities.
I know what kind of plan she needs outlined in order to move forward and she does too but she isn't motivated to do anything. At this time she's content with being on welfare and living the life that an assistance check can provide. Despite the fact she has 36 months and then welfare will cut her off for life.
I'm at a total loss. I've never met someone so obstinate. She wants to go back to school but doesn't want to make any of the changes I've suggested to get her on that track. The steps I suggested she follow are:
1. Find Employment
2. Come back for a budget review so we can set up a payment arrangement for your student loans
3. Talk with a bankruptcy attorney if your employment doesn't leave you with enough income to sustain repayments to the remaining $25,000 in debt (which includes two buy here pay here cars that have been repossessed, various credit cards, and a $1200 utility bill.)
I feel like she's wasted my time…her time. I mean…Why did she come here? Was it that someone finally pulled the covers off and exposed the truth of her situation and now she doesn't want to face it?
I don't know. Just thought I'd share.
25 Years Old, 52k in Debt
September 12th, 2011 at 04:32 pm
September 12th, 2011 at 05:36 pm 1315849019
All I know is that for any real change to occur, the light has to go on for that person. All an intervention or a referral does is mean that the light went off amongst the people around her. If I give her the benefit of the doubt, I'd say that even amongst the battle-hardened unemployed grownups around here (frugal in texas, patient saver), finding a job requires every skill in the book. For someone too depressed or unmotivated, it would be darn near miraculous.
September 17th, 2011 at 03:53 pm 1316274835
September 25th, 2011 at 09:20 pm 1316985601
Jerry
September 26th, 2011 at 01:55 am 1317002145
January 26th, 2012 at 08:33 am 1327566816
Why should the woman care? If you try to make her responsible, then you'll be accused of trying to starve babies and being unsympathetic because you haven't been in her shoes.
Dependence on government is a cancer that is eating us alive, and it's only getting worse.
January 26th, 2012 at 08:30 pm 1327609847